The first step towards deeper connection in your relationships is honesty with yourself.
Drinking problems complicate and sometimes destroy relationships, and the same can be said for the busyness of working, living life and raising kids.
Don’t wait to seek help.
My approach is eclectic, direct, and compassionate in addressing problematic relationship dynamics.
Each person needs to find healthier ways of being and living life in order for real change to take place in the larger family system. You deserve to get support and guidance from someone like me that is competent and gracious in terms of understanding not only substance use problems but codependency as well.
Pretending like everything is fine or living in denial of what is not working in the relationship, for the sake of the kids, is not healthy. Now is the time to reach out for support.
From Reaching for Personal Freedom, “I look for a solution that is good for everyone when I seek common welfare. I try to find the balance between what I want and need, and what is good for the whole (relationship or family). I am just one part, and the common good outweighs my individual desires (pg. 68).”
What does it look like to own your part in the relationship?
Are you willing to do the work and focus on yourself to build a healthier relationship? Blaming the other person is not the answer.
Let’s start your journey towards wholeness and healing as a couple today.
“If you try to keep an open mind, you will find help. You will come to realize there is no situation too difficult to be bettered and no happiness too great to be lessened.”
Excerpt from the Alanon Closing
Do you feel stuck in your current relationship? Recently, has it felt easier to just isolate yourself, physically or emotionally, instead of being vulnerable and sharing what you want or need?
Whether you are trying to decide if you want to stay in a committed relationship, are adjusting to life with young children or you are empty nesters, big life changes as a couple can be challenging. My passion is understanding how substance use, early life attachments and childhood trauma impact present relationships and communication. Childhood trauma in your growing up years complicates communication and relationship dynamics in adulthood. This is especially true with addictions, mental illness, and abuse. Even adults who appear resilient, and high functioning may struggle to have healthy connections and communication in their relationships. Couples committed to exploring how their past is influencing the present and bravely finding more meaning, reach out so we can find a time to meet.
You feel you cannot trust your partner and might not be sure why. Perhaps your emotional needs are not being met but you do not know how to communicate without another argument.
Let’s work together to find ways to express those needs and stay emotionally regulated in the process. It will take work to look at old attachment wounds and heal dysfunctional patterns, and you are worth it. The future of your relationship is worth it.
Couples finding their way through addiction recovery or just committed to looking at exploring how their past is getting in the way, and want to experience deeper connection-please, reach out today so I can support you on your path towards growing together.
Know that even if you are feeling isolated or undervalued in your current relationship it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Either email or call me to set up a FREE, 15 minute consultation to start your journey.
I provide both individual and couples therapy that is focused on navigating and healing relationships.